“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”—Rainer Maria Rilke (via kari-shma)
Live simply. Speak kindly. Care deeply. Love generously.
I just tore something I wrote 3 years ago to shreds; such tiny pieces I couldn’t even discern what I wrote. And honestly, oddly enough, it was so liberating. Kinda odd huh. Sometimes, looking back, things weren’t all that bad. I was just being a huge pain in the ass.
Today, in Chrystal, Ms Chew spoke about the importance of having a best friend. When she said that, I couldn’t help but feel the emptiness within, but then when she said “True Friends are very important, you’ll realize that they’re the only people who will stay with you. Boyfriends can leave, Husband also can walk out on you, but usually it’s the true friends that stay by your side til the very end.” Then, I realized I was truly blessed. <3 I could get used to having Chrystal every week like today.
Life is like coffee, the cup doesn’t affect the taste of the coffee at all. Whether or not it’s styrofoam or porcelain, the taste of coffee won’t change. We all aim to get the porcelain cups, which are very much akin to attaining top achievements, the best results, high-paying jobs, the best quality items but then we lose sight of coffee itself; life. What’s the use of having a really pretty porcelain cup if the cup of coffee’s not nice? So, what’s the use of having a whole slew of achievements and a high material welfare, if we don’t enjoy our lives? Do what helps you get the best tasting coffee, whatever cup it comes in doesn’t matter. Do whatever makes you happy. Sacrifices? Well, yes we win some, we lose some, but at the end of the day, we just have to enjoy life. Wouldn’t you rather enjoy the brilliant cup of coffee than just look at one beautiful porcelain cup?
That’s what I learnt in Chrystal today. And I’ve got to admit, it’s something that’s crossed my mind but I’ve never given it much thought. I’m a strong advocate for living simply and enjoying the little things in life, I believe that that’s what matters in the end. And those 4 things in my title are the things I hope to be able to fulfill from now on in my life every single day.
“I’m sorry if I’ve made your life more complicated. I’m sorry for a lot of things. But most of all I’m sorry I never got the chance to tell you that, no matter what happens next, I’ll never be anything but grateful for every moment I spent with you. Even though I keep fumbling for the right words, all I really wanted to say, was, thank you.”— Carter Webb, In The Land Of Women (Submitted by annarsalis)
One thing you need to know about a Virgo woman - she has guts and lots of them! It doesn’t mean that she is not as shy and as reserved as she seems to be. It’s just that she can do anything and everything for the people she loves. By love, she means real love, no other type of love exists for her. A Virgo female is a complete woman! She has all the charms and tricks that any other female has, but she is not weak. Infact, she has quite a determination and can do anything if she sets her mind to it.
She will be completely devoted and loyal to you in a relationship. Still, if it doesn’t seems to be working, she will severe all the ties and become as cold as the North Pole. Virgo women’s characteristics profile is an odd mix of emotions and practicality, romance and common sense. When they fall in love, they show such extreme passion and intensity that only few other women can. Making them fall in love is, however, an entirely different task. They will demand total perfection from you, even though they may fall short in that arena.
It’s better to get used to their critical nature. A Virgo girl believes that she is extremely efficient and organized and what is more annoying is, that she is right. She is a stickler for time and it’s better not to be late when you are meeting her. (I don’t mind people being late, I just hate it when I’m late; subtle difference) She will not break the new, expensive vase when she is upset, but she can be very demanding and fussy. If the fault is yours, admit that you are wrong and say it while handing her the flowers. Don’t even try to argue, or she will lose her temper again.
It is better to leave her alone for sometime and she will cool again. On the other hand, a Virgo woman will find it very hard to accept that she is wrong. The fact is, most of the time she’s not. When you are courting her as well as after you get married, it is advisable to mind your manners. She cannot tolerate someone using abusive language, coming late, dressing sloppily, not minding table manners, etc. It’s better to brush up your vocabulary too. She will not cling to you, nor will she become totally aloof.
She is also very good with finances and extravagance is not one of her personality traits. A Virgo female cannot stand public displays of affection (NOT TRUE, I’m actually pretty open with my affection) and it is better to be subtle in this area. Her taste is very good and her intellect quite developed. If you are trying to woo her, take her to places like theatre, art gallery, etc. Just like a typical Virgo, she is prone to worrying about things too much and she will do your part of the job too. She is very much attached to the ground and prefers to live in the real world.
You let a Virgo female do her part of making things seem just perfect and she will keep you entertained with all her feminine charms. She is very sensitive and her feelings are pretty fragile, but she will become exceedingly strong when you need her support. With kids, she will be very considerate and you will never see them running around in their underclothes. She will be gentle, but firm and will demand complete discipline from them. Even though a Virgo woman is very critical, she will not take criticism very nicely. It never works the other way round for her.
The reason for this is that she is as aware of her own imperfections as she is of yours. So, she doesn’t need you to remind her of her own shortcomings every now and then. Instead of fretting over her perfectionism, you should feel blessed to have such a charming female who never makes your house look like a garbage dump. Your toast will never get burnt and your coffee will always taste just perfect. She has a witty side too and when she laughs, it seems like the ringing of little bells, doesn’t it! (I’m pretty sure my laughter doesn’t sound like little bells ringing.)